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Alternative Wedding Planning: Save the Date, Invitations & Beyond...

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Alternative Wedding Invitations

Alternative Wedding Ideas, From Gothic to Celestial

I design and sell what I love. Every single design in our catalogue is something I would genuinely choose for my own wedding. That is not a marketing line. It is just how we work.

Birdhouse197 is not going to sell you bright floral invitations, because that is not who Joshua and I are as designers or as people. That is no disrespect, the white wedding with soft florals and calligraphy is many people's dream and it is a beautiful one. But we are here for the couples who want something genuinely different. Non traditional wedding invitations for people who have never wanted a traditional wedding.

If that is you, you are in the right place.

Wedding guests in formal attire with light art projected on a wall at a Halloween wedding

Our Wedding, Our World

Joshua and I got married at Halloween in a converted Loft in West Yorkshire. Dark walls, exposed brick, candles everywhere. No white tablecloths, no matching bridesmaids, no DJ playing Mr Brightside at 11pm. We threw the rulebook out completely and every single one of our guests knew exactly what kind of wedding it was going to be before they arrived, because the stationery told them.

That is what good alternative wedding stationery does. It sets the tone before the day. It tells your guests who you are and what kind of celebration they are walking into. And it means that by the time they arrive, they are already excited rather than surprised.

We have been designing creative wedding invitations for couples who think the same way since 2020. Every design is hand-illustrated, fully personalised, and made to order.

Star-Crossed Lovers arched menus with burgundy invitations, a moss ring box, dagger and ferns on wood

Alternative Wedding Invitation Ideas

Not every couple who wants something different wants the same thing. Alternative is a wide world and our catalogue reflects that.

Gothic and Dark Romance

Skeleton lovers, anatomical hearts, crossed swords and memento mori illustration. The Bleeding Heart, Til Death Do Us Part and Star-Crossed Lovers collections are built for couples who want stationery that is genuinely striking. Foiled versions available in gold, silver, rose gold and copper on velvet soft-touch card.

Celestial and Mystical

Sun and moon imagery, tarot card illustration, cosmic symbolism. Dusk and Dawn, Celestial Sun and Moon, The Sun and The Star and Crystal Ball sit in that space between gothic and boho, dark enough to feel considered, light enough to feel romantic. Unique wedding invitations do not have to be dark to be different.

Tarot & Symbolic

The format that started Birdhouse197. The Lovers Tarot and The Cups Tarot are built around the classic tarot card proportion, that tall portrait format that feels genuinely unlike anything else in the wedding stationery world. Creative wedding invitations in the truest sense.

Victorian and Alternative Vintage

Gothic Victorian illustration, ornate detail, a sense of history. From the Candle and Key cabinet of curiosities gatefold with its hand-drawn silhouette portrait, to the softer pale blues of Lock and Key, to the timeless gold foil of Interlocking Rings. Non-traditional wedding invitations across the full Victorian spectrum.

On the Day Stationery

Your invitations set the tone. Your on the day stationery carries it through into the room. Menus, welcome boards, seating plans, vow books and table name cards, all illustrated, all personalised, all speaking the same visual language as your invitations. If your guests receive a gothic tarot card save the date in the post, they should walk into a room that looks like it belongs to the same world.

Wedding stationery on a round blue velvet table with candles and an owl centrepiece

Alternative Means Whatever You Want It to Mean

We hear occasionally that a couple's stationery caused a minor incident with a distant relative. Usually the skeleton lovers. Honestly, we take that as a compliment. If aunty and uncle are going to need a moment, better they have it when the save the date arrives than when they walk through the door on the day. Our stationery sets the tone early and lets people know exactly what to expect.

Alternative does not have to mean black, dark and skeletons. It means anything that steps away from the conventional. A pizza truck instead of a sit-down dinner. A venue that means something rather than one that photographs well. Alternative wedding ideas come in every aesthetic, gothic, celestial, tarot, Victorian, bohemian. What unites them is the decision to do it your way.


Your wedding should be a reflection of everything you love, not everything your family thinks a wedding should look like. If that sounds like your kind of celebration, our alternative wedding invitations were made for you. Photography by Fatima Elreda Photography

Candle and Key gatefold wedding invitation in deep purple with white candle, key and ornate frame

All in One Wedding Invitations | The Gatefold

If you want everything in one considered piece, the gatefold is the format for you.

It opens from the centre like a pair of doors to reveal your main invitation, order of the day and finer details inside, all in one piece, nothing separate to lose. It is one of the most immersive ways to present your wedding details and it suits every aesthetic in our catalogue from the darkest gothic to the softest celestial. Available across most collections.

Real Alternative Wedding Inspiration - Amanda & Daniel

2nd November 2024 - Photography by Fatima Elreda Photography

Wedding stationery on emerald velvet with candles and florals
Wedding stationery on a teal velvet table with gold detailing, candles and an owl centrepiece
Gothic wedding stationery on blue velvet among tarot cards, brass and florals
Black tarot card seating chart on an easel with greenery in an indoor wedding venue
Formal dinner table with black and white wedding stationery, crystal glassware and an owl centrepiece
Flat lay of gothic wedding stationery with a vintage photo book, perfume bottle and trinkets

Our Top Alternative Wedding Invitation Picks

How to Order Your Alternative Wedding Invitations

Personalised products only

Place Your Order

Choose your quantity (personalised items are sold in sets of 10), pick your colours and add your wording in the personalisation box.

Receive Digital Mock-up

Within 7 days you’ll receive a digital mock-up by email so you can see exactly how your design will look before printing.

Unlimited Revisions

Request any changes and I’ll send updated mock-ups. You can make as many adjustments as you need until everything feels perfect.

Printing & Postage

Once the design is approved, I’ll print, pack and post your order, and share your tracking details. You’ll work directly with me, George, throughout the whole process for a fully personalised service.

Frequently Asked Questions

Save the date sample pack showing four gothic and celestial designs on a wooden tray

Order a Sample Pack

Not ready to order? Feel the paper, foil and finish first. Every pack includes a £14 discount code, redeemable off your first full order.
The Birdhouse197 founders on their wedding day

Got a Vision for Your Day?

Want it in a different colour, paired with another collection, or built into a full suite? Tell us your vision and we'll put together a package just for you.

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Gothic anatomical bleeding heart foiled save the date card on velvet soft-touch paper
The Lovers ‘Til Death Do Us Part’ foiled gothic skeleton couple save the date card on velvet soft-touch paper
Til Death Do Us Part A6 gothic save the date with skeleton couple and crescent moon
Crystal Ball Tarot save the date card with witchy tarot design on matte card for bohemian weddings
Til Death Do Us Part gothic skeleton lovers tarot wedding invitation with tear-off RSVP on matte card
Hand holding two The Lovers Tarot save the dates with gothic tarot card illustration, dried leaves behind
Dusk and Dawn celestial save the date card with sun and moon illustration on matte card for bohemian weddings
Sun and Moon circular save the date with compass, sun and moon design, a celestial save the date
The Bleeding Heart tarot themed 2-piece gothic wedding invitation suite with anatomical heart illustration and tear-off RSVP card on matte card
A gothic-style wedding invitation suite in black and white with intricate illustrations, displayed next to a dried rose.
Green The Star Tarot save the dates with celestial illustration and vintage keys
The Bleeding Heart foiled gatefold wedding invitation with anatomical heart design on velvet textured card
Empress & Emperor tarot style gatefold wedding invitation with illustrated tarot cards on matte textured card.
Til Death Do Us Part gothic skeleton wedding invitation suite with gold foil and cut-off RSVP on velvet soft-touch card
Til Death Do Us Part gothic skeleton lovers tarot card 3-piece wedding invitation suite on matte card
Dusk and Dawn foiled 3-piece wedding invitation suite with celestial sun and moon design on velvet soft-touch card
Ten of Cups foiled tarot save the date card with gold foil on velvet soft-touch paper
A flat lay of celestial save the date cards in navy, blush and ivory with star and moon illustrations, shown with matching envelopes.
Save The Date Sample Pack Sale price£14.00
Interlocking Rings gatefold wedding invitation with gold wedding bands framed by eucalyptus
Star-Crossed Lovers 3-piece gothic wedding invitation suite on a wooden tray with crystals and antlers
Hand holding a Sun and Moon foiled circular save the date among crystals and foliage
The Lovers arched foiled save the date card featuring gothic skeleton couple illustration on velvet soft-touch paper
Crystal ball foiled tarot save the date card with bohemian witchy design on velvet soft-touch card
Two for Joy magpie foiled tarot card save the date with foil detailing on velvet soft-touch card
The Lovers Tarot full wedding invitation suite with gothic design and tear-off RSVP card on matte 280gsm paper